What Makes a Man a Real DAD?
Posted: Wednesday, June 07, 2006
by straight talk
Well many people think because they had sex and created a child they are a dad. However, that couldn’t be further from the truth. That short span of personal pleasure does not qualify one for the dad title. So, in my humble opinion if your one of those who walk around bragging about your children but do little to nothing for them, then the title “unfortunately" doesn’t apply to you.
A dad is someone we can confide in when we are down and out. Who is always ready with a kiss and a big hug. They will not condemn, yell, curse or hit you when you do something wrong but they will allow you to understand what you did and try to help you through it.
Dads are men who put their entire life into YOU. They do not say what’s mine is mine and you have to get yours, they say we are family, I love you and how can I help you through your problem. Dads are there when you need help and when there is no one else to go to. They are also there to let you know life is not a hand out and it can be tough. So, if your refused a handout for something frivolous then think about why and what else may be important.
So, the title DAD is one of the greatest in the world. My children are the most special and precious gift God can give and whether born to your spouse, adopted or just assumed into the family if they are a Dad who loves you, you have one special, unique and unequaled gift! Enjoy it forever!
So the next time your mad because of circumstances, don’t blame yourself and pick up someone else’s baggage. Just look sincerely at that person you have, and who is there, who provides and who cares. Trust in them, build an honest relationship and learn to talk together. If you don’t have that now then give it a try, you might wind up surprised. Also, if you have two dads in your life and they both love you, that’s even better. Sometimes life is hard and it doesn’t always work out but true love never leaves. Give them both a chance and bury what you perceive and find out what you didn’t realize, you just may be surprised.
Happy Fathers Day…………………….
Robert T. Melaccio Sr. Copyright ©2006 Robert Melaccio
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Top-level comments on this article: (7 total)Just stumbled across this and I think that this was a very beautiful comment. Every child should send this to their father.Please log in to respond to this comment.Thank you for your thoughts, they are sincerely appreciated. You know it could apply to mom as well. I do hope it reaches someone to think about their own situation. Sometimes the truth is hard for us all to understand, regardless of age and it takes time to digest. I wish you peace.Please log in to respond to this comment.
This is so true! Luckily my three little angels have a stepdad that defines what a real Dad is, reading this made me think that it was written about him.Please log in to respond to this comment.Thank you for reading and commneting. Being a dad is special. You are all very fortunate to have a person who is what the word defines. It is, like mom the most important job God can bestow upon us. I miss mine as my wife does hers but we know theya re close by and they never leave us. We were truly belessed to have them as oursas I am sure you feel about him. Best wishes, Robert.Please log in to respond to this comment.
As a daughter of divorced parents with an irrelevant father's figure in my life I promised to myself I was going to break the pattern and married a wonderful man which I did. I am specially sensitive to Father's Day, I do not take it for granted, not all father's are real dads and I am sooo glad to have found your writing. You echoed my feelings in such a magnificent way.I am a mother of 3 girls who have the luxury and blessing of enjoying a great dad. I hope you do not mind I placed a link of it on my facebook profile for my friends to read and to realize that there is always space for improvement in parenthood. Thanks again!Please log in to respond to this comment.Thank you most humbly for your kindness. Yes Mom and Dad both formed and amde real by the heart and love. best Wishes, Robert. PS: This was last years writing.Please log in to respond to this comment.
Anybody can make a baby it takes a man to raise one, good article Mr. MelaccioPlease log in to respond to this comment.
This is a loving tribute that could serve as an open letter to dads everywhere. Thank you for writing.Please log in to respond to this comment.
Although i do not have chilren of my own, I would think that being a father is exactly how Straight talk paints it. Nice job. I think I will call me Dad now nd wish him a happy fathers day.Please log in to respond to this comment.
As a daughter from a divorced home, I could not agree with you more. My father left when I was 7, and since then we've tried to forge a relationship to make up for lost time. But that time can never be regained, and my relationship with my father will never be like the one I have with my mom. Thanks for writing this; it really hit home for me.Please log in to respond to this comment.
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