Are We All Really Normal?
Posted: Friday, January 02, 2009
by straight talk
Of course there are many suffering trauma and mental duress brought on by any number of untold horror stories, sickness or strife, or war and politics. In that regard I am not writing. Yet, that leaves the vast multitudes who society considers normal by their standards. Rhetorically speaking are they normal? Yes and do they fit our individual perspectives we form about people? The variable of societies all across this globe speak to what I am saying, just who is normal? By todays standards that is wide open.
An overweight person will look in the mirror and maybe be disgusted with themselves, yet they may do nothing about it. You see beautiful in this society is sadly having the perfect shape and body. Yet that may be an almost impossible task for most to achieve. Does that make them any less beautiful, no. Yet there may be any number of excuses from heredity, to being big boned, to whatever serves them and some of that is correct. If you come from family prone to be heavy most likely you will be heavy. That is most likely, but not always. Some will try multiple methods and if they fail most likely in the end they succumb that they cannot lose weight. They literally "let themselves go". wallowing in low self esteem. Can they, how much and what is healthy for them is reality. can they be beautiful as they are,c certainly. Good grooming, inner beauty, care attention and of course realizing you are special truths that must be accepted..
If we continue to the smoker or alcoholic the same. Until they accept reality, no patch, doctors, counseling is going to help the vast majority. Some yes, most not. " I tried that and it didn't work", much easier to go back to smoking or drinking. In fact many a counselor will tell you until you commit and accept not much will change. Yet people spend small fortunes being guided by others who many times have the same problems as they, only to fail. Yes some succeed and thank God for that, yet it is an ability to recognize truth and take the right action that is the difference.
The same holds true with the unemployed, a dropout, person in poverty or just the person cut when their job went offshore and their skills are not required any longer and they can not find work. Never achieving because "they are stupid", "no one likes me", or as some wealthy say, "Americans just can't do it any longer" even while Americans are training their replacements. A blatant lie that is accepted. Rhetorically, it seems lies are acceptable, just not truth. In reality is it more that they never got the tools or help to take positive action in a lot of cases that becomes more pronouned as rejection sets in? Many times it is they whop made the wrong choices. Not always, just sometimes. So in my opinion, it is easier to become rejects looking for an answer in the things that destroy and never as their own lack of action or bad choices, or for that matter realizing the facades that keep them where they are. I will accept that many looking for help run into the facades society sets up to hide reality and that further destroys them. Comfort is sleep, oblivion, stupor, denial.
Then we have the causes. Sadly, the list of these are endless. Rejection and no love number one perhaps abusive parents, lack of or limited education, society, war, hate and of course our leaders who destroy them in many ways, imposing burdens upon them, financially and through laws that favor exploitation. Society, evolution, environment, social order, labeling, name calling, ridicule, indoctrination, education, beliefs, all part of a society "we must learn to accept and deal with". So does that not speak to what I am writing in of itself?
What happened to the 80 plus percent of us who profess openly a belief in God and love, mercy, compassion and holds ethics and morality as sacred. Oh well, just like I said, profess. A mere word when applied in society and with societies standards.
Yes like stated above, when we get to societies expectations we further build the facade. What do I mean? Well we are not successful if we have no bling, wealth, Easter Bunny package. Success and success is seen by an outward expression, seen not reality. We must have our degree on the wall as if that somehow says we are intelligent and in some way better then others? Yes, don't accept that, well for most this is the reason. Certainly some required by law and most by ego. We are indoctrinated that this is a requirement even while many with multiple degrees fail. Yes and if your graduated from a prized school or university that you are somehow better qualified then someone who graduated from an unknown school or none at all. Accomplishments, character, works not even a evaluation tool any longer, you graduated from where? Oh you must be intelligent. Intelligent perhaps, capable, well another issue. Hey just look at the our nation and the world and the list of graduates from elite schools who we have elected and see the results or product of their efforts. Not all of course but many. Yes the car, surroundings, jewelry, all signs and symbols, outward expressions of success, good, capability, but are they, really?
Ethics and morality. Well the St Petersburg Times reported today Illegal Immigrants fill spots in Public Housing. Even when Americans mind you are still on the waiting list and being evicted. Acceptable to you? The word illegal doesn't bother you? Well our very own president elects Aunt is here in the country illegally and guess what, she is living in one of those units. Double standard. immoral, unethical, evidently not in our society nor with our leaders. Does it not show in their works? The law of selective application? Just fact mind you, as reported multiple times.
Now even in our relationships we see a demise in marriage stability? Fidelity and thrust and frankly they ability to stick in good times and bad missing. Of course in my opinion this all stems back to the superficial with everyone blaming each other. Not I, he, or she, or them. It can't be me? Well in a relationships it takes all parties to make it work. It cannot be a one sided relationship and work. People are hard to change when fixed in their ways for many years. They can, but a very rare situation. Yes acceptance, of reality necessary. Oh you say he or she is good but showing nothing in works, thoughts or deeds, or even a willingness to change is a sign that cannot be ignored. Sometimes the reality or wake up call must come as a shock. Communications and real love the basis, truth, oh there is that word again, acceptance, and recognition of reality. Cheaters did not get to be popular based on marriages and relationships that were founded by people with character, integrity, values, true love. No marriages that last are based on commitment, communications and the bottom line, true love.
Yes it seems many are not successful by societies standards unless we have wealth and power, degree, the measure of success. I guess Mother Teresa just didn't fit the category? How about Bill Gates, oh that one is a surprise right? Steve Wozinak founder of Apple Computers? How about William Hanna of Hanna -Barbera fame? Need I go on? One could fill pages. The gist, you do not have to have a degree on the wall to be intelligent or successful you have to have it between the ears and put it to use. And we all have it bar circumstances, we just need help in activating the motor or using the tools. The degree, the bling, the beautiful environment be it office, home or person used to make a statement, "I am someone". Do you need help to know that? That is why people pay fortunes and never find that out. Some sadly wind up killing themselves, destroying themselves and many times others. Yes they just don't know how significant they are. Like a tiny Atom alone nothing, but another Atom, together part of the whole. Yet the whole cannot be whole without that one. After all to make real change we must accept reality, truth, facts. To ignore or deny that leads to no real change, just superficial change. Trickle down mentality.
Now how does one handle this? Well frankly we don't, we conform. It isn't a matter of liking what I say it is what it is and therein is the problem, truth, facts. Look I can look on this site alone and find what people are interested in by who and what they read and the topic and the style of the writer. They are great writers to be able to capture that audience. My style direct and to the point others placate, are politically correct and never even attempt to address the topics I deal with. That does not make them less of a writer. I am not being critical of them. In fact they are much better then I in many regards.
Yet reality being what it is they are the ones with the awards, the high number of readers and they stick to their subjects, just like me. Yet, regardless of what you may say, there is a district difference in style, content, subject. However, when I started writing I held a belief that the majority of people wanted to hear and know about truth, facts, reality. I have come to find out after three or four years that is just not so. So as a writer I have my following but they are pale at in number to the others. So I had to evaluate why? Of course my ability is a factor, what I write to, subject matter, style, all factors.
Simply speaking I wrote to indoctrination awhile back and in that I found my answers. You see like a cult people are indoctrinated and we belong to the largest cult in the world. Disagree, your choice, yet all one has to do, that is if they can, is consider just what I am saying truthfully.
Example. A few years ago I took over a class abandoned by three certified, college educated teachers, fact. That class was number 7 out of 7 classes in terms of GPA and discipline. When the year was out that class was number three and moving up. I was told by any number of "teachers" that I wasn't a "teacher" and had no degree and therefore should not think I was a teacher. Yet they had no answer for the fruits of my classes labor. Someone was teaching something and what they called me meant nothing. In the students eyes and their parents I was a teacher. Not that degree. In fact many protested when I was assigned the class because I had not teaching degree. The point, a person can accomplish anything they set their mind to doing if they understand the truth and recognize it accept reality, take action and learn what tools are required and how to use them. Then they can make real change.
The purpose of this writing exercise is because I do not feel my writing is effective any longer with the majority of readers. True my steadies encourage me, but in reality they are pale in number and a writer must seek the outlets that they can write to and reach who hold the same values, beliefs, perceptions. I was a risk at best with my style. This is a wonderful site and I will not leave it but switch gears to topics that people are interested in, if I can find those, sports perhaps, religion. Yet political, change, comprehension of reality not so and that is a fact. Yes difference of opinion not reality when the facts speak otherwise, that is simply speaking, denial.
So hopefully those in despair will understand if you do nothing, sit on your fanny, take no action, it will remain what it is. Identify reality, accept truth, find out how you can make effective change, seek help if necessary, find good people who care, love and are interested in you. Easy, never, but it all starts with one - YOU. As the song says "You can do it if you try".
Best wishes,
Robert T. Melaccio Sr. 2008 Copyright 2008 Robert Melaccio Sr.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)In my little world, I AM NORMAL! I have compassion and tolerance for those who are not. President Elect Obama may be close to perfect but, thankfully, he is not normal. Who could aspire to that "normalcy?" I'll remain content in my own "insane" world. Thank you for raising your thoughts.Please log in to respond to this comment.Yes gerry I agree, we are in our own little world and in such we are the normal while all around are the ones we wonder about. I'm glad there are a few of us out there I was starting to worry/ Best wishes.Please log in to respond to this comment.
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