straight talk

Trust, One of the Most Significant Words In Any Relationship.



Posted: Saturday, December 15, 2007

by

Trust is what most of us place in another being, entity, situation, organization, business dealing, etc. It requires us to rest assured and be reliant on the character, abilities, truth of another, or something. It can really be said we have confidence in that which we contract into or rely on.

Therefore when trust is broken, abused or exploited it has dire consequences. Now that may be legal or otherwise, however, it tears at the very fabric of any relationship. If we purchase a car for example, and most not all being lawyers, we place our trust in the person who sells us that car [how foolish] and in the dealer who sells us that car [how foolish] to represent what they say as being truth. We know that this is just not reality in a majority of the cases regardless of what these dealers and sales people tell you. How sad is that? Yes, like the bill collectors who won't put anything in writing before demanding your paymentt or the politician who promises one thing but does another and then blames someone or something else.

You see we all understand the courts do not honor trust they only honor the contract. Verbal committments very hard to uphold and when you sign the papers, even while mislead or perhaps you didn't udnerstand or see what you signed you are stuck. They may even agree with you but and that is the but! So it is in life with every situation. To say I trusted him or her has no value when the person or entity has no moral, ethical or religious character to abide in or do what is right, just and fair. In fact they will do the opposite and use your trust against you and be proud of their accomplishment and I suppose arrogant goes along with it?

Yes and when you are used you feel, ashamed, foolish and stupid. You feel exploited, taken advantage of and somehow less of a person because you allowed it to happen. In fact people will tell you that and more. While the person or entity that did it as I stated, will thrive, laugh, strut and glory in their accomplishment.

So the lesson of trust no man is simply the best lesson one could adhere to. Sorry, we don't, we do trust. We trust our spouse to be faithful, our children to be what we desire, our boss to be appreciative of our efforts and reward us accordingly, our government to have our interests at heart and on and on. Yet, we suffer the trial over and over again.

Souses cheat, children do things we are not happy about, bosses connive and exploit and politicians and car people, well we will leave that to their own consciences. So what are we saying, are we to not trust people? No, certainly not. There are many decent and honorable people out there in this world. You just have to realize that because they say they are doesn't mean they are. You must not only listen but do your homework, investigate, check, ask, seek, question and even then those who are sharp as wolves will eat you up. Why, because you a re most likely the trusting kind. Their gold mind and opportunity and next commission check.

So in all we do trust no man [or woman]! It is as simple a lesson in life and as good a one as anyone can learn. You see those who are trustworthy will go over everything with you carefully and those who are not will rush you through it all. They will smile and tell you all that you need to know to lower your guard down and then when all is said and done they will show you the contract you have signed and they will accuse you of injuring them and leave you hanging and no one and I do mean no one will care because it is all under the law. Let the buyer beware was not meant for nothing.

Yes, in my opinion based on their deeds, they certainly do not fear God, the law or anything even though they may sit in the front pew at church each week. No their God is what they seek. So remember this trust no one and as President Reagan once said, "trust but verify".

Robert T. Melaccio Sr. Copyright 2007 Robert Melaccio Sr



Robert Melaccio Sr. has worked in the computer industry for 40 plus years in a diversified business and managerial environments. He enjoys freelance writing, giving seminars for young adults and teen groups as well as being an accomplished award winning poet of published poetry. He has worked teaching and as a youth minister. He is married and has three children and three grandchildren.

This Article has been viewed 198 times. (Not updated in real-time.)
Top-level comments on this article: (0 total)
No comments yet.
We want your comments! If you can read this, you don't have javascript enabled, so you can't use this comment system. Please enable javascript.